I, unfortunately had to rely on my daughter and her friends this week to help their mama out. Maybe it's my fault for never wanting to inconvenience other people, or maybe I'm just too good of a person to realize when someone is gaslighting me.
Either way it's been a wild two weeks. I have a few blogs I plan on publishing this week but wanted to take a quick minute to brag. I've known since August 17th that I needed to clean things out, I've made comments to some friends/family but never really set a "date" to have people help.
Every one's work schedule is different, and everyone has a family they want to go home to afterwards. I have never been one to ask for help, very rarely will those words come out of my mouth. When I do ask, know it's crucial and I'll forever owe whoever comes to my rescue.
I called my oldest after work today to see what her plans were. It's usually us against the world, and we somehow always come out on top! She had plans with her friends but offered to help later tonight. Eh, that was a NO go as MOM (me) picked up extra shifts this week and work midnights until Friday! I told her don't worry about it and have fun. She insisted and I declined. I told her I would just go over for a few hours to move some stuff but explained I wanted to get a few hours of sleep before going back out for the midnight.
I go to the unit myself and am instantly overwhelmed with the amount of stuff I have to do in less than 5 days. Nonetheless I load my car up and take the stuff to my house. It was 7pm by the time I was done and I had to be back to work by 12am. I kept telling myself "do a little each day and you'll be fine". The problem with that is, I don't have time to a do a little each day.
I work Mon-Friday 8-4 (7a-4p if I'm feeling spunky). This week however, I picked up FIVE extra shifts. I am working doubles the rest of this week into Saturday morning. Instead of a normal 40hr work week, I managed to get myself into an 80hr work week. Okay, whatever. I can still get this done. Nope, wait. It's family weekend on campus this weekend and I'll be darned if I don't get to see the youngest.
The plan was to leave early Friday morning, stop for my visit with John and then head to campus. Nope, can't do that. Not only do I work a midnight Friday, but I work 4p-12a on Sunday. Truth be told, I work with amazing people who would pick up those shifts in a heartbeat if they knew the situation. I just haven't asked yet.
My oldest who planned on going up with me this weekend was bummed when I told her I wasn't going, or only going for the day. I explained to her why and told her a lot of people have cancelled their hotel reservations, realizing $400 a night for a hotel is nuts, and a lot of the events have been cancelled. I much rather go when it's calm, and the hotel isn't breaking the bank. Nope, not an option.
My oldest said "can I do it later tonight". I told her I didn't want her going at night alone and she said, "I'll bring my friend". I was still hesitant but said "you know what, you're drowning, and this is the boat that's going to save you". I caved and said "okay" but told her not to cancel plans, and NOT to worry about it if she couldn't do it.
I took my shower for the night, did my hair, and took my 10pm phone call from babe. So far, no nap! The oldest came home, asked for the keys and said "I have this person helping, her boyfriend, and his friend. We're going to fill all the cars, and we'll bring the stuff back". Hmm, okay. I hand her the keys and explain to her what she needs to get. Perfect, perfect!
She calls me once she's there to ask a question, and since I had a full hour before I had to be at work I opted to go and assist. I threw on some clothes, stopped at dunkin' and went to the unit. I pulled up and noticed every SUV was packed. I was like "what in the world it's only been 20 min". I walked in and was utterly amazed. It took FOUR kids to empty 60% of my unit in less than an hour.
We got back to the house in just enough time for me to help unload and make it to work on time. I thanked them before I left and told them I'd take them to dinner one night if they weren't embarrassed to go with me. They said, "omg no we're happy to help". Isn't an option, I'll be buying dinner! It's the absolute least I could do.
On my drive to work tonight, I got teary-eyed as I felt the weight lifted from worrying about when I was going to get this done. I'm not exaggerating, for the last month I have been worried about finding the time, or people to help me with this and the closer I get to the date, the more worried I became. To have a huge majority of this unit cleaned out in under an hour is mind blowing to me.
For the first time in 8 months, I caught a break. I seriously feel like 1,000lbs have been lifted from these broad, quarter-back shoulders! I don't think anyone could understand the amount of chaos, turmoil, stress, and anxiety I go through on the daily. I've recently had a few people tell me "I don't know how you do it", "he is so lucky to have you", "God bless you because I could never".
I don't do this for accolades. I have asked both my girls, numerous times if at any point this becomes too much, and you want me to walk away, all you have to do is tell me. No questions asked. I would drop it all if it affected my relationship with my girls. Do you know what they told me when I asked? "Mom, if you don't do this who will. NO, you keep fighting for him, he deserves it and quit being mean to him"!
I am rather "moody" these days. How I managed to raise two intelligent, beautiful, compassionate, giving little women I will never know. To say God has blessed me, is a total understatement. I don't at all, deserve these girls. Life hasn't always been kind to them, but my gosh are they amazing!
A best friend is like a four-leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have. You my beauties, are incredibly lucky to have the friends you have. I am luckier to have you two for my BEBS!
Friends never withhold kindness and mercy (Job 6:14)
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