Shortly after their father disappeared, I met a kid at work who would constantly flirt with me. I'd entertain it but if it got out of control, I'd tell him to chill as he was in a relationship with someone else. I'm a very flirtatious woman, always have been. However, I would never cross boundaries. I'll never be the "other" woman. He didn't like the rejection but respected it. We kept it professional after that.
Until, weeks later he shows up to work and asks me out. I laughed and before I could respond he said, "nope I'm single I broke up with her". I said no as it was still too fresh and I didn't want to be used as the rebound chick. He was relentless! Every night we worked together he'd ask, and eventually I caved!
I can't remember what our first date was, but it was fun. The guy literally treated me like a QUEEN! Three months in and he proposed (shoot I probably should have said I was engaged twice before to their father) and I said YES!
I am now engaged; he's never met my kids or family but "heyy i'm engaged". How the hell am I going to tell my kids, and introduce them to another man? Like this was not ideal for me. Nonetheless I took my kids to liberty park and told him to meet us there. It was weird at first. My kids were shy and so was he. It took them awhile to warm up with each other, but they eventually did.
We are going strong for a solid 18 months and he becomes possessive and obsessive. He'd pick fights with me at random & accuse me of screwing around with another kid at work. I'd clearly deny it as it wasn't true, and I'd often try to tell him "i'm done" and he'd beg me to forgive him. Every argument he'd say "im so sorry" and then shower me with something I've wanted. He was always gifting me things.
It wasn't until the fall of 2010 that I realized who he actually was. I had ended things in Sept and in October I was getting text messages from a different kid at work being real weird. I responded to the messages and kept the conversation going but ultimately thought "something isn't right". The kid didn't text me often but when he did it was sexual flirtatious stuff. It wasn't until I started asking personal questions that I realized it wasn't the actual kid I was talking to, but who was it? The name was saved in my phone under the kids name and I put it there. Isn't that odd?
I ended up calling the number one day and the father of my ex answered! I was mortified! I talked to the father and explained his son has been stalking me, and saying inappropriate stuff about my girls, etc. The father felt horrible and said "i'll talk to him". Turns out my EX took my phone and changed the number of the other kid I worked with but saved it as the other kids' name!
He's also sent me emails (I had him blocked on everything else) talking about what a slut I was and bad mouthing my girls in a legit inappropriate way! I was livid!
I emailed him back and begged him to meet me at the parking lot of Jib Jab. I told him how sorry I was, and I just wanted to talk!
Dumbass fell for it! We both got out of the car, and I approached him aggressively. I punched him right in the face and told him if he ever talked about my girls again, I'd do the unthinkable!
I turned around and walked to my car like a MOFO boss and never heard from that 🤡 again!
The mental anguish this jerk put me through kept me off the market for close to 5 years! I've only ever been in two serious long-term relationships and damn were they nightmares! There was NO way I was putting myself back out there, plus my mental health was a disaster. It was time I just focused on my little family, my BEBS.
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