How do people typically act in stressful situations? When you’re waiting for the unknown and it can go either way. Actually, your chances of surviving are slim, but there’s a 1% chance you’re given a second chance.
People tend to be short fused, on edge, and snippy while waiting for a particular outcome.
We fought last night over a sundry box! A SUNDRY box!! We completed his order last Friday, but for some reason it wasn’t accepting my credit card. I tried calling, but due to the holiday they were closed. I reached out to my support group and no one had valuable suggestion. I asked him numerous times if he wanted to go through a different carrier and he said “no this one has every thing I need and like”. Okay, then you’ll have to wait until Monday so I can call them.
Monday rolls around and he asked if I ordered it yet. I said “no I just got off work”. He said “okay good because I want to use a different site so I can get my blanket”. Mind you, this is why I asked him 3x to use another one, so he can get his blanket.
I get the laptop out and he starts reading off the item number so I can quickly find it. First one was a sweatshirt, we order two. Next item shoelaces “a 42in man I needed a longer one”. The one he wanted from the other site was a 54in. He said “never mind I don’t need it”. OK, whatever. Third item is adidas shower shoes. He says “man these are expensive”. They were $35 and the ones from the other site were $12. For what he wanted them for I understand the concern over the price. I encourage him to just get them since he needs them to walk back and fourth to the shower. Perfect, it’s added to the cart.
Fourth item, and the one that questioned our relationship…..jogging pants that are 100% polyester fleece. “What’s that”, he asked. My response “I don’t know, th”. How am I supposed to know what polyester fleece is? I google search it and I read off the description in a condescending tone. He makes a remark, and I laugh. He becomes annoyed and frustrated and I become bitter. I tried explaining to him that every item he has picked so far he doesn’t like. He becomes more frustrated and I decide to tell him “if you’re going to keep talking to me that way I’m hanging up and…..” CLICK.
He beat me to it. He hung up on me! Gosh I hate when he does that!!
Honestly, I thought I’d be upset over it and I wasn’t. I was able to jump in bed early last night and man did it feel good!
Guess what? The guilty ate at me while I was laying in bed. I quickly jumped out and called the first website to find out why my card wasn’t working. The guy said there’s been a lot of issues with the website but he’d be happy to take my order.
Perfect, I read him the item numbers and he added everything in and I paid. Quick and painless. I sent John a message last night letting him know I ordered it and that I love him. It’s always “I love you, say your prayers and try to get some sleep”. I also told him that I cant imagine what he goes through daily, and that I would never survive it, but he needed to quit treating me like I can’t do anything right and to humble himself. I also encouraged him to call other people for a few days and not me.
I felt bad saying it, but I can’t handle the negative crap, I just can’t.
This special man responded saying “you never listen I told you I wanted the other website. I get frustrated because I can’t do anything from in here and only have you to rely on. Cancel the box if you can”. Listen guys, I sat in my car and laughed. The flipping nerve!
I called the company at 7:45am and cancelled the $400 order! I sent him a message letting him know & even offering to give the money to someone else so they can order it for him because it always causes an argument when I do it.
He never responded so I sent another message because you know that’s what crazy people do. I told him I was working till 430 tonight. Asked him to call me after and I would order the box for him. Guess what no response.
I sent a third message reminding him how much I hate when he hangs up on me and how unfair it is considering I can’t call back. I also asked him to give me a couple days and to not call me. I explained to him that I am the most consistent person in his life, and he needs to quit taking his frustration out on me. I told him I loved him and to keep praying.
This clown ignored all 3 messages!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I don’t know if I’ve made this public or not and I certainly hope he doesn’t get mad but a year into us dating I asked him if he was autistic. He had clear signs of Asperger‘s. He did agree that he had some obsessive quirks, but he was never diagnosed.
He is super intelligent, can fix and build anything. He is self-taught and is constantly educating himself. I swear he is special and I mean this in the most loving caring way.
I swear I try to have patience, but I realize mine run thin as well. Don’t get me wrong, I love this man tremendously but like every other couple we fight and argue. I hope I don’t portray this perfect relationship when we are far from perfect. I am simply trying to share with the world that this man is by far a malicious murderer. God always prevails, but continue to pray for us while we wait for the unknown and for my patience because Lord knows I have none!!
James 1:3 and 4: The trying of your faith works patience, and let patience have her perfect work.
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